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Hi everyone, this is my first post - we brought our little Molly home on Saturday. She is almost 8 weeks old, a beautiful chocolate lab puppy. All of sudden I seem to be worrying about everything! It's just like having responsibility for a new baby. Tomorrow I have to start leaving her for a couple of hours morning and afternoon - she has a puppy crate which she likes and she seems to sleep most of the time but I am worrying about leaving her. She whines in the car, so that is a worry too. We so much want to get it right so we end up with a sociable dog that we can take anywhere but the right now it seems like a huge impossible task.
Sorry to offload in my first post but I wonder if anyone else has been transformed from a normal carefree person to a neurotic ball of nerves overnight?!
 

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I was the same and still the same now and Winston is nearly 7 months old!!
I just want to do right by him!! I always leave the TV on for Winnie when i go out! Silly really as i know he doesnt need it!
also have you got a kong... you can put her normal food in ther and it will keep her busy when you leave also it always used to make Winnie really tired! And maybe you could wear an old top tonight when you sleep and pop in the create when you go out! that way she might think your around if she can smell you! :D
Hope that helps not much but thats what i do with Winston. :)
 

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Not a huge impossible task. She is at the perfect age to start the basics and you'll find that with consistency she will learn very quickly. With regards to leaving her, she should soon realise that you will return and although she may whine to start with, this should soon diminish. I know how worrying it can be, I have just had a litter of 12 and there were times when I thought I may have a nervous breakdown especially when they were uip and running about, chewing everything, eating anything they could, slugs, leaves, stones! Argh! :D But with just one to keep your eye on, you will be able to teach her right from wrong very easily.

Get her out in the car as often as you can. Even if you don't drive anywhere. Just sit with her in the car for a few minutes at a time to get her used to it, and then eventually take her for short trips. With puppies I find that little and often is the way to go to get a good solid dog who is sociable, well mannered and bold. Have you joined a puppy class where you can take her to get her socialised with people and other dogs once she is vaccinated?

There are loads of lovely Labby people who can offer some great advice and I am sure they will be along soon to give you some tips!

Good luck

Jo
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Hi YJB, I'm also a newbie and yes I am the same. I have Roxie who's almost 11 weeks old and it really does feel like a new baby has arrived in the house (human one that is). I also felt the same for the first few days. I was scared stiff of leaving her on her own. Roxie seemed to cry every time she went in the car and i wondered if she'd ever get the hang of it. Few weeks on and i'm pleased to say going in the car is no trouble and as for leaving her if i need to pop out ,she's fine. I think she likes the peace and quiet!!! Please post up a photo of Molly,I'd love to see her. Looking forward to having many more chats about our neurotic ways. :D
 

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Yes - but the anxiety does get better - every week is easier - until suddenly you spend more time enjoying and laughing and less worrying. However I got so much support and reasurance from this forum - which definately made a big difference - knowing I wasn't the only bag of nerves :)
 

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I agree with much of what has been written. We've had Poppy home for 3 and a half weeks. It has been hard work but is getting easier! we haven't had an accident in the house for (touch wood) 5 days. She has gradually stopped howling in the car and will now settle down and lie down while we travel. It definitely gets easier, but I know what you mean....she has taken over our lives and I am constantly thinking about her and worrying about her (and I wouldn't have it any other way :D :D :D )
 
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Don't worry, the anxiety you're feeling now is completely normal! As others have said, it does get better, but I sympathise completely with your feelings of desperation in wanting to get everything right - I was just the same. If anything, it shows you're a good dog owner - far better to worry about everything than not give a monkey's!

One thing I'd say about leaving her on her own is that you'd be amazed at how much puppies at that age sleep. I fretted endlessly about Ruby when she was that age, and felt guilty working in the study upstairs while she was in the conservatory downstairs. When we finally moved all my office stuff down into the conservatory so I could be in the same room as her all day, I realised she spent hours sleeping, with frenzied bursts of activity in between, and clearly didn't care where I was while she slept! As our trainer said to me when I was fretting 'a sleeping puppy is a growing puppy'.

There'll be other, more experienced, people along with advice I'm sure, but in the meantime I'd just say don't worry about the worrying - it's natural!
 
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I wonder if anyone else has been transformed from a normal carefree person to a neurotic ball of nerves overnight?!
I'm like that with every new pup I have. Apart from earlier dogs, I have had 5 pups in under 5 years too, yet I'm just as bad with each one. I lay in bed waiting for them to cry, even after they have been sleeping through the night. I'm watching them all the time they are awake and even when they are asleep. I ponder over the daftest things from "Should I wake it up to feed it" to "Should I give the wormer in the morning or evening"..... In short for the first few weeks my brain goes to Puppy Mush :lol: .... and then as we get into a routine and life calms down, I get more and more relaxed until I'm my old self again. So no, you are definitely NOT alone. :wink:

Whining in the car is normal, most of my youngster have done it. Some have been sick or pooed too, so I try to aim for pup with empty tum and empty bowels before taking it out. Of course life doesn't always fit into this pattern, so I just make sure I take wet wipes, poo bags and kitchen roll with me.....and ignore the yelling. I do try to take it out in the car every day though, even if it is only round the block. The more times they go out and the more boring the journeys are, the quicker they learn to just settle down and accept it.

I know others here leave their pups to go to work and so hopefully they will be along later to tell you how they managed their routines. :wink:
 

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When Harvey first came home i was so scared to leave him but very quickly realised that it is something that had to be done, i must admit that it was and still is me who has the separation anxiety and not Harvey.

As for the whining in the car Harvey was the same at first but after a few days he realised that nothing bad will happen on a car trip so fast forward to 17 weeks old Car trips now are no problem what so ever, (he sits on the back seat like a big boy and very well behaved too) and i can now leave him for a few hours on his own without worrying.
 

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Thank you!

Thank you all so much - I was just having a funny moment! It doesn't help when people keep telling me how much trouble I have taken on. Even the vet told me today that I can expect to have the house wrecked. I don't expect the next year or two to be trouble free but surely it is not inevitable! We will do our best with her and she has good parentage, if that counts for anything. In fact her father is Deed from Wylan Briar - I believe the breeder, Di, is a member of the forum? He looks magnificent and her mother, Balla, is gorgeous.

If I can master the art of making the file smaller, I will upload a photo of her.
 

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Welcome to LF - you will get lots of support and help here!

I think we all worry madly to start with, but hopefully you will start to feel more in control soon.

It's not inevitable that the house gets wrecked - some dogs are born wreckers, but not that many! You will get hair everywhere (lots of hoovering!), and unless you are incredibly diligent about drying after walkies and trips to the garden, there is likely to be an increase in mud on the floors and small splatters on the walls to wipe off. Apart from that, Jed hasn't done a lot in the way of wrecking.

He does steal socks and occasionally tries to eat them - he also pinches my son's toys and sometimes chews these too, but these count as minor misdemeanours as far as I'm concerned.

Have fun with Molly and enjoy her puppy time - she'll be all grown up before you know it.

Liz + Jed
 

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Can I ask if this is the same Molly who has been emailing me and who I put onto Di for litters from Deeds.....???

Tracy!!
 

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How strange that the vet said to expect to have your house wrecked, why would he say that, my baby boy has done no damage to the house at all...

New leather suit... in tact
curtain to the floor..... still on the pole
kitchen cupboards.... not chewed
new rug in living room..... not chewed
carpet runner on stairs... not damaged
freshly painted wood work... no teeth marks, come to think of it the whole house not wrecked at all.

Mandy and Harvey
 

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Hi

I agree with everything else that has been written. Ruby is now 1 and although I am still a neurotic owner it has got easier as she has got older.

I think any puppy can potentially wreck your home but it depends on the character of the pup and also how much opportunity it has to do it.
I feel we have been very lucky with Ruby and apart from a few kids toys which have been stupidly left accessible to her she has not caused any damage to our house. I have found that a stairgate and crate have been invaluable and meant that she can be contained in areas which are more puppy friendly. She is still left in the crate or outdoor kennel and run if we go out. This way I can restrict what she has access to because I am sure if she had the whole kitchen to herself for a few hours she would probably decide that destroying wicker baskets might be more fun than her doggy toys!!

Hope this helps

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That is so reassuring. We are not precious about it - we know to expect some 'accidental' damage but not quite a complete dismantling of the house!

Molly is doing so well - she already asks to go out and hasn't had an accident in the house for a couple of days (although we are VERY watchful so that helps) and she was dry last night which I certainly don't expect again in a hurry.

Tracy - no that must be a different Molly. We haven't emailed anyone. By the way, my name is Yvonne. I would like Di to know what an adorable daughter Deeds has, though!
 

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Hi - I have a black lab bitch - she's 13 weeks now but literally as soon as we got her home at 6 weeks, we took her out in the car even just for 5 mins round the block. She was in the boot, I sat on the back seat just to reassure her for the first 3 drives. Then I sat in the front and we just kept talking to her so she knew we were there. A couple of wees on the first few drives but the whining became less and less and now she just goes to sleep. We went camping the other week and she spent about 2 hours in the car and slept all the way there! No we don't need to worry about the car at all! We can also leave her in the car now while we pop into the supermarket - even if she sees us go, by the time we're out, she's asleep!

This forum is fab for ideas - and Jess loves her kong, stuffed with soaked kibble and frozen! Keeps her amused for ages!

Enjoy your pup while she's little - I'm sure Jess grows overnight sometimes!
 
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