Posted: Tue Oct 21, 2008 9:57 pm Post subject: How do you ever get over the loss?
I lost my precious little girl Sammie who was nearly 10 years old, in May of this year due to a brain tumour and I'm still finding it terribly hard I'm not good at telling other people how I feel and normally I hide alot, but I'm really having trouble at the moment dealing with the loss of my little girl I miss her so much and I know non-doggy people will say "Oh you still have your other dogs" but as much as I love them, it still dosen't take away the pain of losing my little Sam.
This really is like a physical hurt and it won't go away. Sometimes I think I'm beginning to deal with Sam's loss but just as I think that I'm doing ok, the pain comes rushing back again.
It dosen't help either knowing that Max has bladder cancer and Em isn't well either.
I really would give anything for another cuddle with my little Sam
We all take things for granted but the message from me is to make every precious moment count with your dog(s). You never know when they may be taken away, young or old.
I have finally finished a DVD I have made of Sam's life, photos and videos - it is nearly two hours long and is such a wonderful memory of her life! There have been so many tears putting it all together but it was something I just had to do!
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I still get upset when I think about Smokie, my first pony I had when I was 11... the cats, the dogs, all of them.. I have their photos up, and often have quiet thoughts of them all...
I don't think we ever 'get over' the loss, I just think with time, we learn how to deal with it, and although its a cliche, time really is a great healer.. they will always be in your thoughts, and you will always have your wonderful memories...
It is hard Nikki - especially when you love them as much as you loved Sammie and had such a strong bond - but as time goes on the hurt gets less and you can recall their funny moments with a smile rather than tears...
You are having an especially hard time at the moment and I do suspect that with the problems that Em and Max have has meant that you have not been able to grieve properly for Sammie - and that is partly why it is still so hard and so painful.
Hugs to you my friend, there are no easy answers - I wish there were
I don't think that you ever trully get over the loss of your pets because they too are your family members your life just goes on. You have lots of great memories and they are for you no one can take them away from you.
I still get upset about all my losses but I think they had a good life and I loved having them in my life.
There are never the right words to say, and I suppose there will never be the right words, but it is better to get your feelings out. I agree you have lots of problems with Max and Em but they are all individuals and you are just one person with all this on your shoulders, you have to take each day as it comes and enjoy your family!
I lost Amber 2 and half years ago and i still miss her daily, it doesnt matter how many other dogs you have and how much you love them, they are not the dog you lost
I know i am better than i was, but what would i give for just one more day with Amber. I didnt get to say good bye, her death was a shock although she was poorly i didnt expect her to die.
As i say it does get better, i can look at her pictures now and smile instead of cry.
As i said to Bernie earlier this evening it like loosing part of yourself.
It doesn't go away, but it changes from remembering with utter grief, to remembering with a tear, to eventually, reminiscing with a fond smile. I promise one day that will come and the love will never change. It will get easier
I lost Amber 2 and half years ago and i still miss her daily, it doesnt matter how many other dogs you have and how much you love them, they are not the dog you lost
I know i am better than i was, but what would i give for just one more day with Amber. I didnt get to say good bye, her death was a shock although she was poorly i didnt expect her to die.
As i say it does get better, i can look at her pictures now and smile instead of cry.
As i said to Bernie earlier this evening it like loosing part of yourself.
Oh Denise, so sorry to hear about your Amber. What you say though is just like I feel, as much as you love your other dogs, they can't replace the dog you have lost - nothing can.
Its so true, losing a much loved dog is just like losing part of yourself, Sammie was definitely a big part of me
I can still remember the physical pain and loss I felt when my first dog had to be PTS through illness.....I was 15 and I felt like my world had imploded . It took me an awful long time to see past the pain and to be able to look at her photos in a happy way.
Moving on too many years to count, I still get dreadfully upset when I lose one of my best friends. It is only natural. They form such a huge part of our lives and they leave a huge hole behind. The only difference now is that I accept the pain, the sorrow, the guilty and the anger as part of the grieving/healing process...I don't fight it anymore.
Having had far too much practise at grieving for human and animal family and friends, I am now much more accepting that death is just a natural part of the process of life. It takes me less time to stop clinging to the past, wishing I could turn back the clock, so that I can move forward. Of course I still have days when I'm feeling down and I wish I had my friends/family back here on earth with me....and of course there are still days when I cry for things that might have been but they get less and less as time goes on.
I lost my darling Tara very suddenly in January and it was a shock. One day she was fine, old but fine and the next she was gone . Yes it was painful, very painful but she was old and I knew her time would be soon (although not that soon), so I feel I had already started preparing myself for her leaving us. I felt as if out of all my losses, I accepted hers the easiest of all because I knew she had had a good, long and happy life and as much as I didn't want her to go, I accepted that she would, long before she was ever ill. Maybe that sounds a bit heartless but I think this is the coping stategy that all my losses has taught me.
I like to think that someday I will meet up with all my friends and family one day....all together once more and this thought keeps me going in really dark times.
i lost my sally last sept we had to have her pts she had cancer and other things she was 10 .she died in my arms ,i loved her so much i still cant look at a picture of her without crying she was so special to us all .now i have megan and she has helped to ease the pain shes my baby .i dont think it ever goes away just eases with time .just love them take care of them and enjoy every minute .my thoughts are with you suexxx
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I'm not good at telling other people how I feel and normally I hide alot, but I'm really having trouble at the moment dealing with the loss of my little girl 
I miss her so much and I know non-doggy people will say "Oh you still have your other dogs" but as much as I love them, it still dosen't take away the pain of losing my little Sam.
