SeaThreePeeO  Offline
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 Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 5:13 pm Post subject: |
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I know exactly how you feel. Although I have not experienced the pain of losing my beloved lab I did experience it with another of my pets.
On 22 July 2006 I lost my African Grey parrot Deedee, she had lived with us five very short but very happy years and she was my feathered baby. I was absolutely distraught at losing her and promised myself I would never get another parrot as I would feel I was in some way replacing her.
However my parents and husband decided to buy me a baby African Grey and like yourself I wasn't sure. I felt enormous guilt and wasn't sure if I was really up to bonding with another parrot. Then I went to visit Izzy at her breeder's house and it was love at first sight. Izzy just sort of chose me and in a way I like to think that Deedee 'sent' her to me
Waiting for her to be able to leave her breeder gave me something to focus on and look forward to. A sort of light at the end of the tunnel. Now almost 2 years on Izzy is very much a member of the family and life wouldn't be the same without her.
I still miss Deedee and I will do every day of my life. There really isn't a moment that passes where I wouldn't have her back. Her ashes now sit on my bedside table.
Only you can can truly decide what is best for you and your family. But there should be no guilt felt in offering another dog a wonderful home.
Wishing you and your famiily all the best xxxx
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sarah1979 Offline
puppy walker
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No.of Labs: 1
Lab Names: Ruby and remembering Holly who went to the bridge 28-12-07
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Im so sorry for your loss of Molly. I know how yoy feel as Christmas 2007 i lost my beautiful Holly to lymphoma, although i wanted another dog straight away i was grieveing for Holly dearly. When i went to choose Ruby and put a deposit on her the guilt set in. I asked myself whether i was doing the right think, this guilt lasted even after i had Ruby. I dont feel guilty anymore because i know that i am giving Ruby the best possible home she could have and all of the love in the world. I know a new dog is not a replacement but you can focus your love on a new "Molly" who will have her/his own funny little ways that makes them so lovable and unique. Just think how happy Molly was, i know it is not easy. Also just to add if you did decide not to have the puppy, dont feel guilty as you will know whether the time feels right. What kept me focused on Keeping Ruby was wondering what home she would have gont to if i had not have had her. Hope this helps and im really sorry again.
sorry i forgot to add that having Ruby helped me alot in my grief for Holly as i could focus my affections on her. Hope that makes sense. Take care.
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claireliz Offline
and gorgeous girls
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| Posted: Fri May 16, 2008 5:28 am Post subject: |
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Sorry for your loss- Its so hard to lose a beloved friend.
When I lost my last two- Molly and jess, in a short space of time, I was devastated. I waited 4 years until I got Mocha. Big mistake in hindsight as I was pretty miserable without a dog. When I did get Mocha the pain came flooding back and it made me miss them even more- does that make sense?
Personally, I waited far too long and in hindsight protected myself against hurting all over again. I also had some major life changes and it wouldnt have been fair to get another pup straight away- work and stuff was not dog friendly at that time.
My son went on about Molly and jess EVERYDAY for four years- until we got Mocha. It felt link a btrayal of my love for them when I did get another lab but I think thats just me and I would have felt like that whenever I got another- be it the next day or twenty years.
And also- of all the labs I have owned- they are all such differnet personalities.
Good luck whatever you decide and hugs to you at this sad time.
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