Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 2:45 pm Post subject: in total turmoil
as some of you may know i lost my beloved black lab molly last thursday and am still totally devestated.
After we buried her in our garden my son asked when we could have another dog.
we looked on the internet and found a puppy which we put a deposit on for collection tommorrow.
after much thought all this wekk i am now having second thoughts as i miss molly so much and feel so guilty, but my son will be devestated if we dont get the pup and i dont want him to think he cant trust me.
my greif is so much and i think i dont want to be pushed into this to soon but to let my son down now is just as hurtfull
Please dont feel rushed into things, but dont feel guilty either, you gave Molly a lovely life and she wouldnt want you to be upset.
I answered your other post about us not wanting another dog after we lost Benn, but we got Sam two weeks later and he really did help us get through it.
We still have photos of Benn up and still talk about him five years ;later.
You will never forget Molly but please dont feel guilty about wanting to give another dog a good happy life like you did her
I can only offer you sympathy here. I have yet to experience what you are going through, but you must abide in the end by what feels right by you and the rest of the family.
Don't think of another dog as a replacement for Molly, rather as a new friend in their own right, and only get one if/when the time feels right.
Sorry that is probably not a lot of help to you. I can't really think of any other way to put things.
Good luck to you. I am sure that whatever you decide will be the right decision in the end.
This must be really hard for you, lossing Molly is a huge lost and you will feel this lost for many months and years to come .Taking on a new pup is a eventually hard thing to do.I am sure you are wandering if you could love this pup as much as you loved Molly and if you really want it , but i think this is only natural.I have been thinking of getting a new dog but have lots of What if's and do i .How did you feel when you went to see the pup Molly will understand if you go ahead and get this pup .Pups are hard work but good laugh makes. All the best Theresa x
when i went to see the pup i really didnt want to have anything to do with it but was told that was only natural after loosing molly.
i love dogs and sure i could love another pup but is it to soon?????
my son will hate me if i let him down he is only 10 and very sensitive, but i dont want to get into something i regret. maybe time will heal, i dont know.
my mum had a pup 3 days after loosing her first lab and said it helped so much, but i cant get my head round having another dog int he house.
Haven't read your other post about Molly ............so very sorry.
I know exactly how you feel having lost my best friend a long time ago it is so hard. But as others have said think of new pup as a new friend and please don't feel guilty doesn't mean you loved her or will love her any less.
I had a beautiful little sheltie after my first labs went and she was so adorable and so so loyal to me i lost her after having Baxter for only a few months and i was devestated . Do you know having that pup to focus on helped me no end to get on with things as he needed me. Didn't stop me missing my gorgeous girlie at all but did help me. Sorry for waffling
Best of luck with your new pup you will love it ...................
Don't forget there is always someone around on LF if you need a chat
Do you have to take the pup now, or could he/she remain at the breeder's for another couple of weeks, with you visiting her sometimes? Maybe visit without taking your son along if you can find an excuse to get a babysitter and go by yourself for a while.
I am not really 100% sure one way or another whether that would be a good idea or not, but would it help you to crystalise things in your own mind? You will be the one largely looking after the pup, so you have to ensure it will feel right somehow.
As you know sadly you will never be able to replace Molly so please do not feel guilty about having another dog so soon.
I have always had another dog soon after loosing one of mine, and i find it helps so much. You will always love and miss Molly but you will find new pup will help you get back on your feet.
By having another puppy will not stop you grieving for molly, she will always have a wonderful special place in your heart.
What ever you decide good luck and lots of hugs to help you along the way
We lost Oliver last November when he was only 9 months old and we were totally devastated. When I rang his breeder she told me about a rescue puppy that had just come in and they thought it would be a good idea to get another as they thought it would help us. I didn't like how empty the house felt without him, not being there to greet us when we got up in a morning and coming in from work it was horrible. So we went to meet Henry and well he was totally different to our Ol yellow for a start and very lively. He is lovely I was a little unsure about getting him so soon after Oliver but he has helped us with the grief. I have since got another rescue dog and have also fostered a labrador. I will never forget Oliver he is always in my heart and we have happy memories of him. You have to go with what feels right for you and your family. Good luck with your decision.
I didn't see your other post about losing molly, I would just like
to say how sorry I am. Please don't feel guilty, molly wouldn't
want that, I am sure you loved her very much and if you get the
other dog you will love him too it doesn't mean you will forget Molly.
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I have yet to experience what you are going through, but you must abide in the end by what feels right by you and the rest of the family.
Molly will understand if you go ahead and get this pup .Pups are hard work but good laugh makes. All the best Theresa x
